How long is someone supposed to take to get over a story?
I found myself reflecting on this question during the week.
Sometimes life brings moments that reopen old stories – memories, relationships, grief, or experiences we thought we had already moved past.
And when that happens, our first instinct can be to wonder:
Why are they still there?
Why hasn’t this ended yet?
Why are we still talking about this?
But then I heard something recently that seem to be the needed response:
“I give myself permission to repeat the story until it tells me something different.”
This really resonated because the truth is that healing rarely happens on a neat timeline.
When we are grieving, processing loss, or letting go of something that mattered deeply, the story often returns – over and over, again and again – until our hearts finally understand something new.
Sometimes it returns to teach us acceptance.
Sometimes it returns to help us forgive.
Sometimes it returns simply to remind us that something once mattered.
And when I reflected on that, I realized something humbling.
The same grace I give myself while I heal… I must also learn to give to others.
We are all walking through our own timelines of healing.
Some people move forward quickly.
Others take longer.
Neither path is wrong.
Self-care is not only about being gentle with ourselves.
Sometimes self-care is also about releasing judgment toward others who are still processing their own stories.
One day we may find ourselves in the same place – needing time, needing space, needing grace.
So if a story from your past has been repeating itself lately, maybe it isn’t a sign that you are stuck.
Maybe it’s simply a reminder that your heart is still learning something important.
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven.” – Ecclesiastes 3:1 KJV
Healing has its own season too.
What story in your life keeps returning?
Instead of pushing it away, ask yourself gently:
What might this story still be trying to teach me?
Until next Saturday!
Love, Talisha 
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How long is someone supposed to take to get over a story? I found myself reflecting on this question during the week. Am I stuck… or is someone else stuck? Sometimes life brings moments that reopen old stories – memories, relationships, grief, or experiences we thought we had already moved past. And when that happens, […]
